Happy Valentine's Day

I'm officially back on the market. Hopefully this time I can find a nice guy who actually has time to date.

I'm sad because yesterday I told the recent nice guy that I wasn't going to pursue anything with him anymore because it was clear he didn't have the time. Work work work. We talked last night, he apologized for avoiding the inevitable conversation, and for hurting my feelings. He said he wished he hated me because it would be easier, but he doesn't. He thinks I'm "awesome" and still likes me, and misses me. (Clearly not enough to actually make more of an effort to get in touch. Words can be really empty at times.) He also admitted that, yes, he didn't have time to date anyone right now.

We decided we'd stay in touch, and if he ever comes to the conclusion that he doesn't want to be that guy who is 43 and realizes he's still single, he can call me. I'm not waiting around, by any means. I haven't been; I've got some online dating activity. And I'm not likely to go out of my way to get in touch with him. What would be the point? But there was something there, and if he clues into how to have a job and a social life and I'm still single, I'll give him a second (or is it a third, or fourth?) chance. It's not often you find a guy who holds the door, pays for everything, doesn't pressure you for sex, and is smart.

Don't you love Valentine's Day?